But here I am… writing it. Because I’m just that irritated. I’m so annoyed, in fact, that I’m pretty damn close to doing a mass purge of my facebook account. Because I don’t think I can stand to read another word of this nonsense.
Excuse, blame, fault…it’s seems I can’t go an hour on facebook (or twitter) without reading something with one of those words, related to dating and being single.
So much negatively. And, in many cases, hostility, towards dating and single people. I realize that a lot of the darkness is self-loathing in disguise. Whatever, I kinda don’t care what’s causing people to spew forth this crap.
Yeah, I called it crap.
I was having coffee with an old friend a few days ago and it had been years since we had seen each other, five years in fact. She married right after high school and pregnant soon after. She became a wife and mother all before she was 21 years old. Don't misunderstand, I am so happy for her! She found everything she had wanted in life. Anyway, after small talk we made out way to the topic of relationships, and specifically why I wasn't in one.
She frowned and said.."I pity the girls who put career and success before wanting a family. It's just sad". Was she talking about me? She had no idea what my life has been like outside high school, whats its been like the past seven years. I wanted to scream at her. No, actually I wanted to drop kick her in the face.
Instead I smiled politely and told her that right now marriage and family just isn't right for me, and how happy I was with that. I'm enjoying my 20's! I do want to get married and have a family, someday. Just not today, or tomorrow.
I have no excuse for being single. I don’t need one. Because it’s NOT A BAD THING. I’m not blaming it (my single-ness) on anyone, nor do I think you should blame it on me.
Yes, there are many singles who are conflicted about being single. They’re struggling with their identity, in the same way that many married people struggle with their identity (this isn’t what I thought married life would be like..) and divorced people… The world has changed a lot since were were kids. Few peoples’ lives turned out the way they thought they would. Smart people acknowledge that and move on. Others point fingers and look for scapegoats.
Click on a news site, people. Read a real book. Feed your mind something with substance. There are lots of single people in the world. Demographic trends show that there will be even more of us in the future. Deal with it.
